11月20日晚7点到八点半，为提高辩论社成员的思辨能力，荣获CUDC全国大学生英语辩论赛三等奖的陈久月和李坳同学为大家分享他们的参赛经验，以此来帮助同学们提升辩论能力并为其答疑解惑。

其中分享的辩题之一为：THBT individuals should prioritize their self-growth over making sacrifices for their partner in a romantic relationship

GO: THBT we should put the self-growth in the first place instead of making sacrifice for partner, owing to only can we have a massive ego and then we will have a positive attitude to life, including the relationship with others.

First of all, if we drown ourselves in one relationship, we may spend too much time and money for the partner. What’s more, a romantic relationship doesn’t equal to a permanent relationship. Thereby, it might turn out that all the efforts were in vain finally.

Secondly, the money and time aren’t always to be obtained and we cannot know how much risk to sacrifice for the partner for us from the very start because we can’t judge a book by its cover and humanity is too complex to be judged. Therefore, the input-output ratio would be much higher if we put the money and time on ourselves instead of others, which can make us to become better version of ourselves.

Last, prioritizing our self-growth doesn’t mean not to sacrifice for your partner at all. We can do something valuable for others within a rational range. We acquire ecstasy and memorable sweet memories from positive relationships.

PO: From my perspective, we shouldn’t prioritize self-growth all the time, which will lead to selfishness.

First of all, putting others in the chief position could make us better at looking after others so that we will much more considerate when we are in low spirits and confused about our own life. Besides, pay more attention on others can make us less negative and discover new hope about life when we are too depressed to drag ourselves out of the bad feelings.

Secondly, sacrificing for others is able to let the partner have a strong and valuable sense of himself or herself and make them aware of that they are crucial for you and strengthen the bond of your romantic relationship. Then, you can get more happiness which could light your dark times just like a virtuous circle.

通过这次辩题分析，大家的辩论能力得到了提升，让我们一起努力共同期待下次新手辩论赛的辩题分享吧！